Successfully leaving an abusive situation requires a dual focus on tactical planning and physical readiness. Strategic exit planning is about the “how” and “where”—mapping out your route, identifying a safe destination such as a Women’s Refuge or a secure location unknown to the abuser, and ensuring your digital footprint is completely erased through disabled location services and cleared browser histories. This phase is built on discretion; it involves making invisible moves, like establishing a secret “burner” phone or opening a private bank account, to ensure that the moment you choose to leave, you can do so without being tracked or hindered by financial control.
Crucial Safety Tips for Your Exit
- The “False Trail”: If you use your phone or computer to plan, clear your browser history or use “Incognito/Private” mode every single time. Be mindful of predictive text or auto-fill that might give away your searches.
- Location Privacy: Turn off “Share My Location” on all apps, social media, and devices. Carefully check for any “AirTags” or GPS tracking devices hidden in your car, bags, or children’s belongings.
- The Safe Destination: Know exactly where you are going before you leave. This could be a Women’s Refuge, a specific police station, or a friend’s house that the abuser does not know about.
- Emergency Contact (111): If you are in immediate physical danger or feel a situation is escalating, call the Police on 111. If you cannot speak, call 111 and wait until you are prompted to push 55—this alerts the operator that it is a silent emergency.
- Women’s Refuge (0800 733 843): Call their 24/7 crisis line for immediate shelter and advice. They can provide a safe house and support even if you leave with absolutely nothing.
- Shine Helpline (0508 744 633): Call Shine for confidential, non-judgmental support and information on how to stay safe. They are available from 9am to 11pm, 7 days a week.
Staying Safe and Sane 